When fight or flight doesn’t seem right

The fight or flight response.  It comes into play when we are faced with a dangerous situation that needs our instinctual wits to help us to safety. Humans have chosen the correct choice enough times in our evolution to keep the species growing and thriving.  OK.  That’s great.  So what’s the problem? The problem comes in when we are triggered… Read more →

The Art of Taking Up and Not Taking Up Space

Have uncovered an interesting concept with my clients lately: Taking up space in a personal interaction leads to diminished connection and joy. Taking up space in our life leads to increased connection and fulfillment. In conversation, whether it’s a sales conversation or a talk with your wife, leaving the space between you open naturally produces better outcomes.  Asking questions and… Read more →

“There’s No Crying in Baseball” Is No Longer

An amazing drama unfolded at Citi Field last night. In the NY Mets crucial game against the rival Nationals, Wilmer Flores the NY Mets shortstop got a standing ovation every time he came up to bat. What was behind this out pouring of love given to a light hitting shortstop by 40,000 plus NY baseball fans? Two nights earlier Flores… Read more →

A Case for Mentorship

Society would be completely transformed if every man over 30 years old were to mentor another man. First lets define some terms.  Role model vs. mentor. Years ago, Charles Barkley famously declared that he didn’t want to be considered a role model.  As a young man he would get into hot water for spitting on fans and throwing tantrums and… Read more →

The Urge to Live

I met Stuart Scott briefly at Magnolia Bakery in Manhattan getting cupcakes several years ago.  I was a fan of his work at ESPN so it was cool to run into him and feel some of that upbeat charisma that came across on TV. He died yesterday.  He was 49.  Sad and disheartening for someone who brought so much joy… Read more →

Are you pre F**K it, F**k it, or post F**K it?

You are averse to change. You avoid risk and take the safe sure-thing.  You don’t try new things or put yourself in “uncomfortable” positions.  Somewhere inside you know there could be more to life, but…. You are pre F**K it. You are done with the same old routine. You are curious. You are willing to ditch what you’ve been doing… Read more →

ODT Powerful Programs for Fall 2014

We are offering three distinct types of programs this fall.  They are unique in their structure to allow for the different ways that men best stretch and grow.  And whether you choose to do the work in nature, virtually or in person; these programs are equally impactful, transformational and intense.   Virtual–    This is the second offering of the ODT-… Read more →

Simple Steps to Overcome SOS – Sudden Overwhelm Syndrome

Do you have a saturation point of input or stimulation, that when reached, renders you WAY less effective? Do you lose your cool in front of coworkers, kids or strangers when too much change is happening at the same time? I call this Sudden Overwhelm Syndrome.  It is common because we all have a threshold where it kicks in. Many clients come… Read more →

How to Keep Your Dignity AND Be More Effective in the Workplace

Do you wish that you had more presence of mind during important conversations? Do you say things that just aren’t true for you in the moment and then have to revisit a conversation to get your point across? Do you find yourself strong-armed into doing tasks that aren’t yours because you couldn’t stand in your strength and say NO? You are… Read more →