An amazing drama unfolded at Citi Field last night. In the NY Mets crucial game against the rival Nationals, Wilmer Flores the NY Mets shortstop got a standing ovation every time he came up to bat. What was behind this out pouring of love given to a light hitting shortstop by 40,000 plus NY baseball fans? Two nights earlier Flores… Read more →
Society would be completely transformed if every man over 30 years old were to mentor another man. First lets define some terms. Role model vs. mentor. Years ago, Charles Barkley famously declared that he didn’t want to be considered a role model. As a young man he would get into hot water for spitting on fans and throwing tantrums and… Read more →
I met Stuart Scott briefly at Magnolia Bakery in Manhattan getting cupcakes several years ago. I was a fan of his work at ESPN so it was cool to run into him and feel some of that upbeat charisma that came across on TV. He died yesterday. He was 49. Sad and disheartening for someone who brought so much joy… Read more →
We are offering three distinct types of programs this fall. They are unique in their structure to allow for the different ways that men best stretch and grow. And whether you choose to do the work in nature, virtually or in person; these programs are equally impactful, transformational and intense. Virtual– This is the second offering of the ODT-… Read more →
Do you wish that you had more presence of mind during important conversations? Do you say things that just aren’t true for you in the moment and then have to revisit a conversation to get your point across? Do you find yourself strong-armed into doing tasks that aren’t yours because you couldn’t stand in your strength and say NO? You are… Read more →
Last weekend I had the honor of helping facilitate and guide four teenage young men as they completed a solo rite of passage. We spent Friday to Sunday deep in the woods and up in the mountains. We slept under angled tarps against the rain and the boys spent a 24 hour period solo and fasting. It was led by… Read more →
At ODT we coach men in becoming more effective in their lives. We look to achieve tangible results in specific areas. One area is in having a tough conversation. The goal is to reach the point where someone else’s reaction to what you say (whether it be a compliment, idea, or concern) does not dictate either: * your mood *your… Read more →
Mindfulness is on the cover of Time Magazine. There is organic food grown on the grounds of the White House. Prisoners are doing yoga. Positive Psychology is being taught at Harvard University, and my Dad is advocating being vulnerable enough to talk to someone about what’s bothering you. All of this is very encouraging and seems to be an ever… Read more →
I’m often asked about the genesis of the Open Deep and True Movement. Here are some books that have inspired and formed the foundation. Most authors here have several great books so I’ve listed the book that I feel is the best entry point into their work. Masculinity The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the… Read more →
By now everyone has heard of the death of Nelson Mandela. Every word of praise and reverence for this man won’t do his incredible life justice. He was a giant. A giant in the field of heart and love. In the Alternatives to Violence work I do in prisons we have a thing called Transforming Power. Transforming Power is an… Read more →