Last week I visited an old friend who I hadn’t seen since 1980. He had moved into my hometown in 6th grade and moved across the country after 10th grade, not keeping in touch with anyone. But he had left his mark. He was a great athlete and a great leader but his intensity was what set him apart. Also… Read more →
Society would be completely transformed if every man over 30 years old were to mentor another man. First lets define some terms. Role model vs. mentor. Years ago, Charles Barkley famously declared that he didn’t want to be considered a role model. As a young man he would get into hot water for spitting on fans and throwing tantrums and… Read more →
I’m sitting at the tire store this morning. Waiting for new tires to be installed. There are four of us sitting around a table with a large TV up on the wall. We don’t know each other. The TV is reporting local news of a stabbing in a nearby town, updating us on the Mayor being under investigation, those type… Read more →
I saw the results of the use and non use of two specific communication tools this weekend. The first was the non use of the tool known as the bystander effect. After game six of the NBA Eastern Conference finals, the Pacers 7’2″ center Roy Hibbert was being interviewed after his team’s big win. When he was asked about a tough… Read more →
There are a lot of programs out there. If you type “steps to becoming” into google you will get a variety of replies: 3 steps to becoming an amazing, admired boss 7 steps to becoming financially free 7 steps to becoming a happier person So when I was thinking of a name for my upcoming program for men, I briefly… Read more →
One of the cornerstones of Open Deep and True is coaching men in the art of opening to new possibilities. We are guiding men into living with a more fluid, expanded version of masculinity. Just as strong and competent as before, but with more freedom, choices, and connectedness.Why is there a need for this? For a long time, men have… Read more →
The events unfolding in Boston have been shocking. Such terrible tragedies, changing lives forever and creating such lasting pain and anguish. My first reaction is disbelief, then I try to frame it in some way. Then the roller coaster of feelings: real sorrow for those most affected, then a kind of detached curiosity when surfing for more information, then fear… Read more →
To most men, “men’s work” means such things as going to a job and achieving success, providing for a family, building a deck off the back of the house and helping out in the community. We also have been taught that the term “be a man” means to always have your guard up, don’t show any emotions except anger, and… Read more →
One of the most clear examples of anger out of control is in the case of road rage. Picture the scenario: a person cuts you off as you are driving on the highway. You look over at them and they shoot you a nasty look. Then escalates to them flipping you the bird. You are thinking, what is going on… Read more →
As Valentines day quickly approaches, there can be an increase in anxiety. I have heard many talk about the pressure that they feel to “do Valentines Day right”. One woman I knew said that the MINIMUM effort she expected was dinner, flowers, chocolate and a gift. That was break even! That’s rough! Is rough because the expectation has taken one… Read more →