PathFinders for Boys – Offered This Fall at the Wholeness Center in Valley Cottage NY – starting September 16th 2017
Guiding boys ages 10-13
to live authentic lives
PathFinders for Boys is for the curious boy who wants to learn more about life’s mysteries while cultivating honesty, openness, and fairness in his life. PFB teaches the new form of masculinity: powerful yet just, adventurous yet respectful. A dynamic, experiential training using body movement, games and lessons that boys can implement immediately in their lives.
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Virtual Men’s Gathering- Free Online Groups Open to All Men
Power packed meetings designed to ratchet up
your Spirit, Connection, and Inner Happiness
These free gatherings are havens for “up to something” men to go and share ideas, challenges and inspiration. They have a bit of a “council of elders feel” that happens when you get men together for no other reason than to improve their lives and the world.
We gather on most Thursday nights at 8pm to 930pm EST. These groups are free to join and there are different men there each time so come check it out.
Join from PC, Mac, Linux, iOS or Android: https://zoom.us/j/5162593157
Or iPhone one-tap (US Toll): 14086380968,5162593157# or 16465588656,5162593157#
Dial: (US Toll) or +1 646 558 8656 (US Toll)
International numbers available: https://zoom.us/zoomconference…
Article published in the June 2011 issue of Natural Awakenings: The Power of Men’s Circles By Tom Kelley
To most men, “men’s work” means such things as going to a job and achieving success, providing for a family, building a deck off the back of the house and helping out in the community. We also have been taught that the term “be a man” means to always have your guard up, don’t show any emotions except anger, and never appear vulnerable. This style of thinking has evolved over the years. Hollywood’s 50’s and 60’s tough guys have morphed into slightly more multi-dimensional characters. But the core message remains: real men still don’t eat quiche. Our society and culture often does not encourage men to ever stop and feel; to look inside themselves and ask the questions:
What do I want?
Do my needs matter?
What is my purpose?
How can I feel empowered in my romantic relationship and in my job?
This has resulted in generations of men out of touch with their feelings and their power with no way to articulate why they are frustrated and drifting through life. Men’s Circles One way for men to reconnect with themselves and increase their focus is to form a regular meeting circle with other men. The size of the group works well at anywhere from 5 to 16 men. The group should be large enough to shift the focus off the individual but not too have too many members thus prohibiting each man from getting to speak regularly.
In order for most men to be comfortable enough to discuss issues that previously have been off limits, the right environment must be created. One of the first ways to do this is to set up firm ground rules around how the group interacts. Certain upfront agreements are crucial to building the trust necessary to go to a deeper level of communication. The first rule is no talking over, or cutting someone off, when they are speaking. Notice how common this is the next time you are in a group of men. It is the main form of communication in bars, golf courses and workplaces. Its absence in a men’s group encourages a free flow of authentic feelings to surface, which starts the process of reconnecting to our power.
All men also must agree that all things talked about in the circle are confidential. When this trust is established the men are much more likely to go deeper into themselves. Another aspect of a highly functioning men’s group is avoiding trying to “fix” the person or his problem. Rather, evoke from him the truth that he already knows but is feeling blocked from being able to do anything about. This is done by asking questions or offering new perspectives on the issue. In time, these techniques create a supportive, non-judgmental setting. It becomes a place where real breakthroughs can happen and men can feel what they feel, know what they want, and reclaim their power. And, if they want, they even can feel free to eat quiche. –